That’s the best I have these days. These are stressful times. Because once again the Relationship Expert got into another messed up relationship with an addict/alcoholic whose easy goingness was really passive-aggressiveness mixed with being high and drunk and whose blank expressions masked constant neurotic defense mechanisms and emotionally abusive thoughts.
I know this now because this is what he has turned into since I kicked him out.
He said two interesting things when I asked him to sit down and figure out how to co-parent with me.
“Why do you get the kids?”
Because I didn’t drink to the point of passing out with them. Because I’ve been financially supporting them. Because I get up with them every single day without excuses. Because I am an adult.
“Now I have to get a good job because I can’t support myself on what I make. And I need a big fancy truck and nice furniture because I’m alone again.”
Wait a second. A real job now? Not when you should be supporting your family, letting your pregnant elderly wife take 3 weeks off per baby, not looking for a job with benefits EVER. And a truck. A big fancy truck. No concern for the children. It’s important to have a big fancy truck after you fuck up your life. I don’t get it.
What I do get that is the universe works in very weird ways and that if you just learn to let go, the things you need will come to you unexpectedly. And that there is usually some humor to it.
Thus my new man, who has a great job, and a big fancy truck. I didn’t even realize the irony of this until my best friend told me that the reason my soon to be ex got so passive aggressive to me was that he drove by the big fancy truck on his way in the driveway one night. I am too oblivious sometimes.
I am waiting for everything to be final. This spring is dragging by so slowly. And I am so tired of these relationships.